Blogging, Coffee, Push-Notifications & the Matrix

While making a Saturday morning fresh pot of coffee, I had this moment of clarity (sips coffee)

It helped me to appreciate the value of setting boundaries and limitations with activities that hinder my personal growth and peak performance abilities

Including and especially my social media activity (sips coffee).

I realized when I grabbed two of my phones for my morning run just two hours earlier, (one for music and one for wifi) just how problematic my addiction to social media had become.

After all, I’m only gone for 20- 30 minutes tops for my 2 mile run every morning. What is the big deal why I felt the need to bring along my 2nd phone with wifi, just incase I felt like posting a video, or checking to see if I had any new notifications?

My Inner Self told me there was nothing in that phone that was more important than working on my own dreams. There is nothing more exciting in that phone than the awesome projects I get to work on on my day off today. And that is exactly how I learned to see things today.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

No longer will I check my phone, mindlessly scrolling through other peoples’ lives while neglecting my own. (sips coffee)

So back to this morning’s epiphany while making my coffee… I suddenly realized the root of my problem of lack of focus and inability to concentrate for longer than 5 minutes.

As a society, our minds are always way over stimulated with all the social media app push notifications features constantly screaming for our attention 24/7, no matter what time of day or night, rather at work or with family or even while sleeping in the middle of the night

Push Notifications, Be Gone!

The only logical solution to my problem was to turn OFF the push notification features, PERMANENTLY. And that is what I attempted to do (sips coffee) …

Until realizing there is no way to completely turn off push notifications.

Now I’m forced to either log out or remove my fb app entirely to avoid these “time stealing, concentration blocking” push notifications that just won’t seem to go away!.

FYI- logging out of fb does stop push notifications but you still get distracted with the regular notifications every time you view your home screen. So I took it a step further after logging out and removed the app from my home screen. Jeesh!

Considering the hundreds or even thousands in some cases of pages we follow on line, I realized today that one can never possibly keep up with every detail of everyone’s social media life (nor is it healthy to even try) and still be great. We have to select and chose 1.

We can either be informed of every little detail in everyone else’s social media life, or we may discipline ourselves to stop scrolling, unplug from the matrix, and Be Great. What a moment of clarity!

This epiphany got me to realizing just how much the world is truly becoming just like the 1999 hit film, The Matrix on so many levels. On one hand we are practically turning into vegetable-brain-like zombies in real life living vicariously through social media pics, while on the other fitting somewhere into the 3 categories of social media;

  • (1) super stars,
  • (2) those trying to become superstars, or
  • (3) silent watchers.

I’ve therefore decided to stay off of social media on the weekends, unless working and to only use my social media platforms for growing my business.

Weekends will be devoted shabbat, bible study, catching up with work and connecting with family.

Unplugging from The Matrix

The over stimulation is more than I can handle any more. This lack of concentration has been going on for months now, while I literally black out for hours scrolling through dozens of social media posts that do nothing to serve me or move me any closer to my goals and vision. (sips coffee;)

Slow Down & Taste the Coffee

This is some really good coffee by the way. I never would have taken the time to notice had I been caught up in another 3 hour block-out on social media

Nor would I have gotten my blog post done for the week.

I enjoy sipping coffee and blogging Saturday mornings, even if just for the love of it; so from now on this is how I will spend my Saturday mornings — instead of scrolling through social media (sips coffee with satisfaction).

Thanks for reading 😉



Mental Muscle

When it comes to doing IPA (Income Producing Activities) I often feel like I do when at the gym and it’s time to do some squats or straight-leg raises for a kick-ass lower ab work out. Deep down inside I know that these two exercises which also happen to be the most painful to me will do more to sculpt my body in my trouble areas than any other exercise. The irony is that the most powerful result-producing activities/exercises I should be doing at the gym are what I least desire to do; yet I somehow manage to desire the most powerful results, a 6 pack 22 in waist with a round perfectly sculpted 36 booty. Well, if you’ve ever worked out at the gym for an extended period of time, then I’m sure you know like I know that the body just doesn’t work that way– in fact, neither does life or business.

We often want to make the most money by doing the least income-producing activities in our business most; like posting a lifestyle post on Instagram or Facebook, then expecting the floodgates of conversions and 5 figure months to come hurling in. When I say least income producing activities, this is not to negate the intrinsic value in sharing a lifestyle post with your followers, but a lifestyle post alone isn’t going to hurl in instant conversions and 5 figure months for the most part. Or how about always posting positive quotes and memes but never following up with warm prospects to convert them to paying customers out of fear of rejection? We’ve all been there. We’d rather do the light weight stuff, like walking on the treadmill to tone our legs rather than grabbing those 15 pound dumb-bells and really going in on burning and sweating those thighs and gluts out with 3 sets of painful squats. As the saying goes, ‘No pain no gain.’

Successful entrepreneurs start their day going straight for the highest IPA they can muster, rather than procrastinating and messing around with checking email, scrolling through facebook for 3 hours or organizing files. Successful people go straight for the jugular upon awakening. In other words, immediately after a 60 minute morning ritual, successful people tackle their day by ‘eating the bull-frog first‘. Eat the bull-frog first is an expression, referencing the high-rewarding notion of getting the most uncomfortable, anxiety-producing task of the day out of the way early, which is tantamount to eating your vegetables, most gross thing on your plate first, so that the rest of the day then becomes smooth sailing. You’re no longer walking around with tension and anxiety in your belly all day while procrastinating the inevitable uncomfortable IPAs you know needs to be done. So you just dive in, eating that ugly, hairy bullfrog on your plate, or making that first phone call of the day to a warm prospect. When you begin to tackle the critical tasks of your day early, by noon for example the rewards are endless.

For one, you will be making more money than you’ve ever made before, just as you would be losing more weight than you’ve ever lost before. And once you become an expert at making more money or losing more weight than the average, your confidence will soar to new levels you never knew were possible for you. The ripple effect of these two factors alone, will transform you into a success magnet. Suddenly those painful activities will feel a lot less painful when you begin to see daily double and triple digit deposits in your accounts.

Self-Development Exercise:
Keep a picture of a bullfrog tape to a wall of your home office where you will see it first thing in the morning when you rise as a daily reminder to eat the bull frog first. By the law of compensation, law of belief, law of harvest, law of averages, law of attraction, law of inertia, law of cause and effect you will begin to attract the desired results in your business. I talk about these spiritual Universal laws in my book, 6 Figure Mindset coach: Change Your Philosophies, Change Your Life which you may now order at, and in print and Kindle editions.

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5 AM Hustle: Morning Ritual

So I woke up at 5 am and as usual got sucked into the 3 hour social media black-out. In other words I clicked on a Facebook notification and 3 hours later, 8:01 am to be exact I’m at my laptop, coffee mug in hand ready to crank out this week’s 2nd blog post. My laptop is slow as molasses so I can never quite get on and off in 15 minutes like I initially plan, so today I’m calling myself out. i even missed my 45 min morning work-out. I’ve made a decision to purchase a new 8 GB laptop computer on my next pay day to end these 3 hour black-outs once and for all. It’s time to invest in my craft. 5 am is the optimum time for me to start my day in order to master peak performance. I have no time to loose on a crappy computer. The good news is it’s only Tuesday and this is my 2nd blog post for the week, which means I’m right on tract. I’ll definitely be done writing, editing and revising this piece within the next 2 to 3 days, but I absolutely refuse to crank out garbage content anymore for the sake of posting every day and every where. Greatness can’t always be rushed into a day.

So I’ve decided to share a few tips on how I usually wake up, hit the gym at 5 AM, and still manage to get in 90 mins of blog time. Yes I realize you’re not supposed to begin a sentence with “so” but this is one of my idiosyncrasies that help me speak more authentically in the voice in my head, so this is how it’s going down. Let’s dive into these tips.

Tip One: 30 Minute Alarm Trick
My first tip for waking up at 5 AM is to set your alarm 30 mins before 5 AM or the desired time you want to wake up.This is to allow you time to mentally wake up, scrolling through Facebook and basically just being wasteful with your time. You don’t want to waste any time after the 30 minutes of “free-time’ your give yourself.

Tip Two: Mind Over Matter
My second tip is to wake up your mind first, before your body. This is crucial to waking up at ridiculous hours of the morning, and actually staying awake during those first 15 critical minutes of the day. It’s said that the first hour of the day determines if we win the full 24 hours of the day. Well I find it to be equally true that the first 15 minutes determine if we win the first hour of the day.

Tip Three: Create a Morning Ritual
My third tip for waking up at 5 AM is to create a morning ritual using the SAVERS method:

S: 5 mins of Silence
A: 5 mins of Affirmations
V: 5 mins of Visualizations
E: 20 mins of Exercise
R: 20 mins of Reading
S: 5 mins of Scripting/ Journaling

Having a bedtime routine is equally important. I like to meditate 30 minutes before bed, then plan my next day by filling in my weekly planner in 90 minute blocks.

Be sure to be consistent no matter how boring it gets. As you develop the habits of the successful you will begin to reap the rewards of the successful and suddenly boring won’t seem so boring anymore when you start seeing those three digit deposits (okay 2 digit… 2 digit deposits for me but they add up to three digits) hitting your accounts. Just don’t give up before you start seeing results. The funny thing about doubt is that it often trips people up into quitting right when success is withing reach. Just stay focused on doing the one-two step, a concept I talk about in my book, 6 Figure Mindset Coach: Change Your Philosophies, Change Your Life

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Don’t Die Afraid

So I really struggled with cranking out that last blog post. It took 3 or 4 writing sessions of writer’s block, revising and editing, before publishing but I made a promise to myself that I would be more consistent with my blogging. As writers we can sometimes paralyze ourselves trying to write the perfect blog, article, the perfect chapter, or conclusion to an already great piece that we judge ourselves way too harshly, and the end result of course is no blog post for the week. As a professional blogger I live by the philosophy that it’s better to have tried and failed early enough to get back up than it is to have never tried at all. In the end, at our funerals when it’s all said and done I’d rather leave this earth knowing that I took the leap of faith when it counted, even when it meant falling flat on my face a few times than to leave here knowing that I played it safe on the edge of the cliff my whole life, afraid to jump. If we really get honest with ourselves, I don’t think any of us wants to die afraid. In fact, nothing scares me more than the thought of dying afraid.

Sometimes a short but powerful piece can go a lot farther to inspire the reader to action, than a long dragged out full-of-fluff piece ever will.

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Interview with God –Advice for New Bloggers

Greetings fellow bloggers and subscribers! So I really wanted to write this blog based on a real conversation I had with my HP (Higher Power) this morning… It was awesome! I could hear Him speaking to me in Gary Vee’s voice as clear as day. Yes, God’s voice was the same as Gary Vaynerchuk’s this morning. (I Know – Weird, Who’d of thought, right??)

So any whoo… I conjured up my HP this morning with the 12-steps’ 3rd step prayer (it always works). next thing I know, I’m in the hot-seat…

HP: What is it that want.. and how can I help?

Me: Please help me be successful… What do I need to know

HP: So tell me, what is your talent Paris?

Me: Huh?

HP: Exactly… what is your gift… what are you extremely good at? You will never move forward til you answer honestly

Me: I guess writing … I’m a talented writer

HP: Excellent! See, that wasn’t hard. How good are you at writing?

Me: I’m okay. I could use a lot more practice, lol!. My work needs a little polishing I can admit. I’m not putting out my best

HP: How often do you write? I know you must have a blog I assume?

Me: Mmm… not enough … yes I do have a blog but I don’t post regularly. I’m spending a lot more time on YouTube these days, trying to grow my following you know? Plus I work a full-time 40 hour a week job. It’s hard to find the time, you know?

HP: If you want my personal advice Paris I’m going to give it to you straight and be brutally honest with you hon, okay?

Me: Yes that’s fine – go ahead and give it to me straight

HP: Ok- Straight no chaser here it goes: I think you need to focus all of your down time when your not working your full-time job on blogging. For the next YEAR. 95% of your free time doing nothing but blogging or preparing for your next blog. I’m talking a daily or weekly blog post at minimum. At a minimum you should be putting out great content every single week, maybe even twice per week. I want you to put out great blog posts twice per week that will knock your competition out of the park! How many professional bloggers do you know off the top of your head that are out here absolutely crushing it?

Me: not anybody comes to mind right now..

HP: PRECISELY! Why on god’s green earth would you bother wasting your time on YouTube or other platforms to grow your audience when those platforms are not best suited to your gifts… to what comes natural to you. You always want to choose the platform that showcases your natural gifts and talents and you will never go wrong. Don’t be afraid to lead the pack. When ever you are an original pioneer of something, not saying that there aren’t already some really great bloggers out there as Im sure there are, I personally don’t follow blogs, but to make my point, when you’re the pioneer of a thing, you get to make the rules as you go. So don’t be afraid to take risks. You’re in competition with no one but the person you were yesterday. But if you want to compete You will loose against those who are best suited for YouTube or other platforms- EVERY time! I kid you not! Stick to what comes easy for you in the beginning until you become the top expert! I mean think about it, which would you rather be… a mediocre YouTube vlogger or an expert WordPress blogger.. or expert consultant, or hair and make-up artist or what ever your thing or your gift is, as opposed to mediocre this or that just because everyone else is jumping in on the bandwagon, … right? you get me??

Me; (nods head in agreement while gazing into the eyes of her reflection in the bathroom mirror– continues brushing teeth)

HP: Write a fkng bomb blog every single week, aim for twice per week and none of that half-ass mediocre garbage you’ve been putting out– in all fairness by your own admission– I don’t know because I’ve never read your blog. But if writing is really your gift you are going to knock kit out the fkg park in 2018 just with blog posts! Do this consistently for the rest of the first quarter and by the end of the 2nd quarter of 2018, watch and see how much your following will have grown– And an ORGANIC following at that. I’m telling you, when you become the expert in your niche, getting your blog followers and subscribers to cross over to your other platforms when and if you’re ready to do so will be a piece of cake. But for now, lead with your strengths. You can’t afford to overlap your strengths with weaknesses this early in the phase of developing a name for yourself in the social media world. Develop your writing to the level of professional writers in your niche, go look at other successful bloggers with a ton of subscribers and do a shout-out (mention) on your blog. Don’t copy; put your own swag and your won spins on the same trending topics that are headlining with every one else saying the same thing– How bout your say something different? And say it using your own persona and idiosyncrasies only Paris can say it, The key is to “be so good they con’t ignore you.” Have fun with it; No, seriously, have fun; be humorous; be entertaining while informative. Know your audience and your subject thoroughly before you post so you can go beyond just the surface and click bait appeal and actually gain new followers.

Write about topics that are trending, and use relevant hashtags. Study google analytics. Even research how to monetize your blog and write a thoroughly researched and hash-tagged bomb post; Because everyone wants to know how to make money doing what they love- and if more people really knew and understood how to monetize their writing gifts there would be more people jumping on the bandwagon, subscribing to blogs yours as a trusted source of information– but you’ve got to be consistent. consistency is everything, no matter the genre! And the other thing is write about subjects you are already the expert in, and if you can'[t think of one, the mazel-tov! Even better- go find one! Find a subject you’re extremely passionate about and go document your research– then just continue to study and grow your knowledge base and skill set and you are going to knock it out the park by year’s end. 2018 could be your year– if you do what I just said, and stay focused and don’t deviate from the plan for the next year at least. Be patient with yourself and trust the process. Success doesn’t
happen over night. It took me 5 years to becomes an overnight millionaire. Best wishes to you Paris

Me: Thank you so much. I will stick to the plan for a year

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Principle of Applied Faith

IT’S GOING TO TAKE FAITH, if only the size of a mustard seed:
I’m seriously sitting here stuck … trying to make a boss decision on investing another $150 in my WordPress site to upgrade to Business so I can add a woo shopping cart plug-in with option for credit cards, Paypal, coupon codes, shipping, free shipping, tax for my book sales …
I will need these features for my launch
I also need that $150 towards a down payment on a car next week 😫😫
I’m like seriously froze with my finger on the button …
I tell ppl all the time to invest in urself …
If I don’t upgrade now it delays my book launch for several months out maybe a year of paying a new car note and insurance …
but if I invest now I can make that money back and then some with a successful book launch …which is all I’ve been working on over the last month when I’m not working my 9-5…
But if I wait another 2 weeks to get a car I could lose my job due to lack of transportation … the vehicle I drive now will be sold by the owner any day now …
Here comes the part when I have to take my own advice,
take risk and bet on me!
believe in myself…
its where stand at a turning point …
near the edge of the cliff and my only 2 choices are to
take a risk and jump and find my parachute on the way down …
or turn around …
After writing this post my answer is clear …
If ur not willing to be the first person to bet on u … even if that means risking everything
Even if that means ur the only one…
then how in the world can u expect anyone else to ?
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Principle of Going the Extra Mile

I love working in property management… every day I’m faced with new challenges, meeting deadlines,
opportunities to implore problem solving skills, the need to lead a team, to supervise and make them feel heard, understood, and appreciated
to handle emergency maintenance requests, welcome new members to the team, dismiss new members from the team,
to have an unplanned team meetings when everybody’s gathered to introduce new company polices and procedures
to motivate and inspire my team to go the extra mile when they would normally quit,
to build rapport with company vendors, property inspectors and housing specialists
to take initiative with on the spot decisions and take quick and decisive action
to treat all people with dignity and respect, even when they are hostile towards me, or undeserving, to never take anything personal
the opportunity to welcome a new family to their new home as I hand them their key
and lastly the opportunity to take a 20 year old real estate company from a negative networth balance a step closer every day to breaking even.
My boss’ words last week, brought a smile to my face on my way out to the door… “I’m finally beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. This company has potential.”
I practice the principle of going the extra mile on my job and on my personal goals, a principle I talk about in my new book Change Your Philosophies Change Your Life. As a result we passed 3 inspections last week and closed leases on 3 new homes!. Book now available at paris armani dot com. Stay tuned for my upcoming workshop … #BuildingAnOnlineBusinessOnABudget #ZoomWebinar
#UrTransformationIsNear #ReadThisBook #CYPCYL #NewBookAlert
#IndieAuthor #SelfPublisher #BestSeller #FeelItNow #TheSecret #ParisArmani
#Play-Full-Out #vision10k #SpritualEntrepreneurs #FacebookMinnieBlog