Blogging, Coffee, Push-Notifications & the Matrix

While making a Saturday morning fresh pot of coffee, I had this moment of clarity (sips coffee)

It helped me to appreciate the value of setting boundaries and limitations with activities that hinder my personal growth and peak performance abilities

Including and especially my social media activity (sips coffee).

I realized when I grabbed two of my phones for my morning run just two hours earlier, (one for music and one for wifi) just how problematic my addiction to social media had become.

After all, I’m only gone for 20- 30 minutes tops for my 2 mile run every morning. What is the big deal why I felt the need to bring along my 2nd phone with wifi, just incase I felt like posting a video, or checking to see if I had any new notifications?

My Inner Self told me there was nothing in that phone that was more important than working on my own dreams. There is nothing more exciting in that phone than the awesome projects I get to work on on my day off today. And that is exactly how I learned to see things today.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

No longer will I check my phone, mindlessly scrolling through other peoples’ lives while neglecting my own. (sips coffee)

So back to this morning’s epiphany while making my coffee… I suddenly realized the root of my problem of lack of focus and inability to concentrate for longer than 5 minutes.

As a society, our minds are always way over stimulated with all the social media app push notifications features constantly screaming for our attention 24/7, no matter what time of day or night, rather at work or with family or even while sleeping in the middle of the night

Push Notifications, Be Gone!

The only logical solution to my problem was to turn OFF the push notification features, PERMANENTLY. And that is what I attempted to do (sips coffee) …

Until realizing there is no way to completely turn off push notifications.

Now I’m forced to either log out or remove my fb app entirely to avoid these “time stealing, concentration blocking” push notifications that just won’t seem to go away!.

FYI- logging out of fb does stop push notifications but you still get distracted with the regular notifications every time you view your home screen. So I took it a step further after logging out and removed the app from my home screen. Jeesh!

Considering the hundreds or even thousands in some cases of pages we follow on line, I realized today that one can never possibly keep up with every detail of everyone’s social media life (nor is it healthy to even try) and still be great. We have to select and chose 1.

We can either be informed of every little detail in everyone else’s social media life, or we may discipline ourselves to stop scrolling, unplug from the matrix, and Be Great. What a moment of clarity!

This epiphany got me to realizing just how much the world is truly becoming just like the 1999 hit film, The Matrix on so many levels. On one hand we are practically turning into vegetable-brain-like zombies in real life living vicariously through social media pics, while on the other fitting somewhere into the 3 categories of social media;

  • (1) super stars,
  • (2) those trying to become superstars, or
  • (3) silent watchers.

I’ve therefore decided to stay off of social media on the weekends, unless working and to only use my social media platforms for growing my business.

Weekends will be devoted shabbat, bible study, catching up with work and connecting with family.

Unplugging from The Matrix

The over stimulation is more than I can handle any more. This lack of concentration has been going on for months now, while I literally black out for hours scrolling through dozens of social media posts that do nothing to serve me or move me any closer to my goals and vision. (sips coffee;)

Slow Down & Taste the Coffee

This is some really good coffee by the way. I never would have taken the time to notice had I been caught up in another 3 hour block-out on social media

Nor would I have gotten my blog post done for the week.

I enjoy sipping coffee and blogging Saturday mornings, even if just for the love of it; so from now on this is how I will spend my Saturday mornings — instead of scrolling through social media (sips coffee with satisfaction).

Thanks for reading 😉

Love,

P

Mental Muscle

When it comes to doing IPA (Income Producing Activities) I often feel like I do when at the gym and it’s time to do some squats or straight-leg raises for a kick-ass lower ab work out. Deep down inside I know that these two exercises which also happen to be the most painful to me will do more to sculpt my body in my trouble areas than any other exercise. The irony is that the most powerful result-producing activities/exercises I should be doing at the gym are what I least desire to do; yet I somehow manage to desire the most powerful results, a 6 pack 22 in waist with a round perfectly sculpted 36 booty. Well, if you’ve ever worked out at the gym for an extended period of time, then I’m sure you know like I know that the body just doesn’t work that way– in fact, neither does life or business.

We often want to make the most money by doing the least income-producing activities in our business most; like posting a lifestyle post on Instagram or Facebook, then expecting the floodgates of conversions and 5 figure months to come hurling in. When I say least income producing activities, this is not to negate the intrinsic value in sharing a lifestyle post with your followers, but a lifestyle post alone isn’t going to hurl in instant conversions and 5 figure months for the most part. Or how about always posting positive quotes and memes but never following up with warm prospects to convert them to paying customers out of fear of rejection? We’ve all been there. We’d rather do the light weight stuff, like walking on the treadmill to tone our legs rather than grabbing those 15 pound dumb-bells and really going in on burning and sweating those thighs and gluts out with 3 sets of painful squats. As the saying goes, ‘No pain no gain.’

Successful entrepreneurs start their day going straight for the highest IPA they can muster, rather than procrastinating and messing around with checking email, scrolling through facebook for 3 hours or organizing files. Successful people go straight for the jugular upon awakening. In other words, immediately after a 60 minute morning ritual, successful people tackle their day by ‘eating the bull-frog first‘. Eat the bull-frog first is an expression, referencing the high-rewarding notion of getting the most uncomfortable, anxiety-producing task of the day out of the way early, which is tantamount to eating your vegetables, most gross thing on your plate first, so that the rest of the day then becomes smooth sailing. You’re no longer walking around with tension and anxiety in your belly all day while procrastinating the inevitable uncomfortable IPAs you know needs to be done. So you just dive in, eating that ugly, hairy bullfrog on your plate, or making that first phone call of the day to a warm prospect. When you begin to tackle the critical tasks of your day early, by noon for example the rewards are endless.

For one, you will be making more money than you’ve ever made before, just as you would be losing more weight than you’ve ever lost before. And once you become an expert at making more money or losing more weight than the average, your confidence will soar to new levels you never knew were possible for you. The ripple effect of these two factors alone, will transform you into a success magnet. Suddenly those painful activities will feel a lot less painful when you begin to see daily double and triple digit deposits in your accounts.

Self-Development Exercise:
Keep a picture of a bullfrog tape to a wall of your home office where you will see it first thing in the morning when you rise as a daily reminder to eat the bull frog first. By the law of compensation, law of belief, law of harvest, law of averages, law of attraction, law of inertia, law of cause and effect you will begin to attract the desired results in your business. I talk about these spiritual Universal laws in my book, 6 Figure Mindset coach: Change Your Philosophies, Change Your Life which you may now order at www.parisarmani.com, www.amazon.com and www.barnesandnoble.com in print and Kindle editions.

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Love,
P

5 AM Hustle: Morning Ritual

So I woke up at 5 am and as usual got sucked into the 3 hour social media black-out. In other words I clicked on a Facebook notification and 3 hours later, 8:01 am to be exact I’m at my laptop, coffee mug in hand ready to crank out this week’s 2nd blog post. My laptop is slow as molasses so I can never quite get on and off in 15 minutes like I initially plan, so today I’m calling myself out. i even missed my 45 min morning work-out. I’ve made a decision to purchase a new 8 GB laptop computer on my next pay day to end these 3 hour black-outs once and for all. It’s time to invest in my craft. 5 am is the optimum time for me to start my day in order to master peak performance. I have no time to loose on a crappy computer. The good news is it’s only Tuesday and this is my 2nd blog post for the week, which means I’m right on tract. I’ll definitely be done writing, editing and revising this piece within the next 2 to 3 days, but I absolutely refuse to crank out garbage content anymore for the sake of posting every day and every where. Greatness can’t always be rushed into a day.

So I’ve decided to share a few tips on how I usually wake up, hit the gym at 5 AM, and still manage to get in 90 mins of blog time. Yes I realize you’re not supposed to begin a sentence with “so” but this is one of my idiosyncrasies that help me speak more authentically in the voice in my head, so this is how it’s going down. Let’s dive into these tips.

Tip One: 30 Minute Alarm Trick
My first tip for waking up at 5 AM is to set your alarm 30 mins before 5 AM or the desired time you want to wake up.This is to allow you time to mentally wake up, scrolling through Facebook and basically just being wasteful with your time. You don’t want to waste any time after the 30 minutes of “free-time’ your give yourself.

Tip Two: Mind Over Matter
My second tip is to wake up your mind first, before your body. This is crucial to waking up at ridiculous hours of the morning, and actually staying awake during those first 15 critical minutes of the day. It’s said that the first hour of the day determines if we win the full 24 hours of the day. Well I find it to be equally true that the first 15 minutes determine if we win the first hour of the day.

Tip Three: Create a Morning Ritual
My third tip for waking up at 5 AM is to create a morning ritual using the SAVERS method:

S: 5 mins of Silence
A: 5 mins of Affirmations
V: 5 mins of Visualizations
E: 20 mins of Exercise
R: 20 mins of Reading
S: 5 mins of Scripting/ Journaling

Having a bedtime routine is equally important. I like to meditate 30 minutes before bed, then plan my next day by filling in my weekly planner in 90 minute blocks.

Be sure to be consistent no matter how boring it gets. As you develop the habits of the successful you will begin to reap the rewards of the successful and suddenly boring won’t seem so boring anymore when you start seeing those three digit deposits (okay 2 digit… 2 digit deposits for me but they add up to three digits) hitting your accounts. Just don’t give up before you start seeing results. The funny thing about doubt is that it often trips people up into quitting right when success is withing reach. Just stay focused on doing the one-two step, a concept I talk about in my book, 6 Figure Mindset Coach: Change Your Philosophies, Change Your Life

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Peace&love,

P